21 Habits of Happy People

“Happiness is a habit – cultivate it.” ~ Elbert Hubbard

Happiness is one aspiration all people share. No one wants to be sad and depressed.

We’ve all seen people who are always happy – even amidst agonizing life trials. I’m not saying happy people don’t feel grief, sorrow or sadness; they just don’t let it overtake their life. The following are 21 things happy people make a habit of doing:

1. Appreciate life

Be thankful that you woke up alive each morning. Develop a childlike sense of wonder towards life. Focus on the beauty of every living thing. Make the most of each day. Don’t take anything for granted. Don’t sweat the small stuff.

2. Choose Friends Wisely

Surround yourself with happy, positive people who share your values and goals. Friends that have the same ethics as you will encourage you to achieve your dreams. They help you to feel good about yourself. They are there to lend a helping hand when needed.

3. Be Considerate

Accept others for who they are as well as where they are in life. Respect them for who they are. Touch them with a kind and generous spirit. Help when you are able, without trying to change the other person. Try to brighten the day of everyone you come into contact with.

4. Learn Continuously

Keep up to date with the latest news regarding your career and hobbies. Try new and daring things that has sparked your interest – such as dancing, skiing, surfing or sky-diving.

5. Creative Problem Solving

Don’t wallow in self-pity. As soon as you face a challenge get busy finding a solution. Don’t let the set backs affect your mood, instead see each new obstacle you face as an opportunity to make a positive change. Learn to trust your gut instincts – it’s almost always right.

6. Do What They Love

Some statistics show that 80% of people dislike their jobs! No wonder there’s so many unhappy people running around. We spend a great deal of our life working. Choose a career that you enjoy – the extra money of a job you detest isn’t worth it. Make time to enjoy your hobbies and pursue special interests.

7. Enjoy life

Take the time to see the beauty around you. There’s more to life than work. Take time to smell the roses, watch a sunset or sunrise with a loved one, take a walk along the seashore, hike in the woods etc. Learn to live in the present moment and cherish it. Don’t live in the past or the future.

8. Laugh

Don’t take yourself – or life to seriously. You can find humor in just about any situation. Laugh at yourself – no one’s perfect. When appropriate laugh and make light of the circumstances. (Naturally there are times that you should be serious as it would be improper to laugh.)

9. Forgive

Holding a grudge will hurt no one but you. Forgive others for your own peace of mind. When you make a mistake – own up to it – learn from it – and FORGIVE yourself.

10. Gratitude

Develop an attitude of gratitude. Count your blessings; All of them – even the things that seem trivial. Be grateful for your Home, your work and most importantly your family and friends. Take the time to tell them that you are happy they are in your life.

11. Invest in relationships

Always make sure your loved ones know you love them even in times of conflict. Nurture and grow your relationships with your family and friends by making the time to spend with them. Don’t break your promises to them. Be supportive.

12. Keep Their Word

Honesty is the best policy. Every action and decision you make should be based on honesty. Be honest with yourself and with your loved ones.

13. Meditate

Meditation gives your very active brain a rest. When it’s rested you will have more energy and function at a higher level. Types of meditation include yoga, hypnosis, relaxation tapes, affirmations, visualization or just sitting in complete silence. Find something you enjoy and make the time to practice daily.

14. Mind Their Own Business

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Concentrate on creating your life the way you want it. Take care of you and your family. Don’t get overly concerned with what other people are doing or saying. Don’t get caught up with gossip or name calling. Don’t judge. Everyone has a right to live their own life the way they want to – including you.

15. Optimism

See the glass as half full. Find the positive side of any given situation. It’s there – even though it may be hard to find. Know that everything happens for a reason, even though you may never know what the reason is. Steer clear of negative thoughts. If a negative thought creeps in – replace it with a positive thought.

16. Love Unconditionally

Accept others for who they are. You don’t put limitations on your love. Even though you may not always like the actions of your loved ones – you continue to love them.

17. Persistence

Never give up. Face each new challenge with the attitude that it will bring you one step closer to your goal. You will never fail, as long as you never give up. Focus on what you want, learn the required skills, make a plan to succeed and take action. We are always happiest while pursuing something of value to us.

18. Be Proactive

Accept what can not be changed. Happy people don’t waste energy on circumstances beyond their control. Accept your limitations as a human being. Determine how you can take control by creating the outcome you desire – rather than waiting to respond.

19. Self Care

Take care of your mind, body and health. Get regular medical check ups. Eat healthy and work out. Get plenty of rest. Drink lots of water. Exercise your mind by continually energizing it with interesting and exciting challenges.

20. Self Confidence

Don’t try to be someone that you’re not. After all no one likes a phony. Determine who you are in the inside – your own personal likes and dislikes. Be confident in who you are. Do the best you can and don’t second guess yourself.

21. Take Responsibility

Happy people know and understand that they are 100% responsible for their life. They take responsibility for their moods, attitude, thoughts, feelings, actions and words. They are the first to admit when they’ve made a mistake.

Begin today by taking responsibility for your Happiness. Work on developing these habits as you own. The more you incorporate the above habits into your daily lifestyle – the happier you will be.

Most of all: BE TRUE TO YOURSELF.

Thanksgiving Day：感恩节 我们感谢生活

It’s not the turkey alone we’re grateful for. Not the cranberry sauce or the stuffing or even the pumpkin pie. Some of the people seated at the table are strangers – friends of friends, cousins of in-laws – and some are almost desperately familiar, faces we live and work with every day. In any other week, today would merely be Thursday and the gathering of all these people – the cooking and serving and cleaning – a chore. But today it doesn’t feel that way. The host – perhaps it’s you – stands up and asks that we give thanks, and we do, each in our own way. And what we’re thankful for is simply this, the food, the shelter, the company and, above all, the sense of belonging. As holidays go, Thanksgiving is in some ways the most philosophical. Today we try not to take for granted the things we almost always take for granted. We try, if only in that brief pause before the eating begins, to see through the well-worn patterns of our lives to what lies behind them. In other words, we try to understand how very rich we are, whether we feel very rich or not. Today is one of the few times most Americans consciously set desire aside, if only because desire is incompatible with the gratitude – not to mention the abundance – that Thanksgiving summons. It’s tempting to think that one Thanksgiving is pretty much like another, except for differences in the guest list and the recipes. But it isn’t true. This is always a feast about where we are now. Thanksgiving reflects the complexion of the year we’re in. Some years it feels buoyant, almost jubilant in nature. Other years it seems marked by a conspicuous humility uncommon in the calendar of American emotions. And this year? We will probably remember this Thanksgiving as a banquet of mixed emotions. This is, after all, a profoundly American holiday. The undertow of business as usual seems especially strong this year. The shadow of a war and misgivings over the future loom in the minds of many of us. Most years we enjoy the privacy of Thanksgiving, but this year, somehow, the holiday feels like part of a public effort to remember and reclaim for ourselves what it means to be American. That means giving thanks for some fundamental principles that should be honored every day of the year in the life of this nation – principles of generosity, tolerance and inclusion. This is a feast that no one should be turned away from. The abundance of the food piled on the table should signify that there is plenty for all, plenty to be shared. The welcome we feel makes sense only if we also extend it to others. 原文链接：http://www.yeeyan.com/articles/view/27205/18013/dz

我们所要感激的不只是火鸡、红莓沙司或者火鸡填料，也不单单是南瓜饼之类。坐在我们餐桌上的，也许还会有些陌生的面孔，他们是朋友的朋友，亲戚的亲戚；当然，还有熟的不能再熟的客人–和你每天生活、工作在一起的家人和同事们。 在 其他时要求大家感谢曾帮助过自己的人、感动过自己的事，这是，大家也都会以各自候，对我们来说今天只不过是一个平常的星期四，大家俱在一起谈天说地而已， 再加上还要准备晚宴、周到服务和结束后的清理，甚至可以说有点无聊。但今天不一样，主人–也许就是你自己–会站起来，的方式来表达对生活的感激。我们 所感激的事情很简单：美味的食物、舒适的住所、真挚的友谊、无价的亲情……，最重要的，感谢生活赐予我们的归属感。 一年又一年，节日一个又一个，感恩节却 让人永远过不烦，它总是能引起我们的思考。在这一天，我们向那些我们习以为常的小事致以深深的感激。我们尝试着去了解生活中看似秩序井然的表层下面更深层 的意义，哪怕这个想法仅仅在饭前短暂的祈祷时一闪而过。可以说，我们尝试这去思考自己到底有多富有，我们又能否感觉到自己的富有或空虚。在这一天，大多数 美国人会有意识地搁置自己的欲望，这种情况一年也不会发生多少次。而他们之所以这样做是因为欲望有悖于感恩节所倡导的感恩精神，也鞥背离了感恩节所号召的 “精神上的富足”这一宗旨。 人们自然而然地会觉得除了客人名单和菜谱有些变化外，感恩节每年几乎都一个样。这是一个很错误的想法，感恩节的 氛围永远与我们的现实处境息息相关。一个感恩节，反映了我们一年来经历的风风雨雨。有些年，这个节日是令人愉快的，几乎每时每刻都是喜气洋洋的；而另一些 时候，它可能充满了美国人通常不会表现出来的谦虚。

经典美文：生命的波纹

Sioux Indian story … My grandfather took me to the fish pond on the farm when I was about seven, and he told me to throw a stone into the water. He told me to watch the circles created by the stone. Then he asked me to think of myself as that stone. “You may create lots of splashes in your life, but the waves that come from those splashes will disturb the peace of all your fellow creatures,” he said. “Remember that you are responsible for what you put in your circle and that circle will also touch many other circles.” “You will need to live in a way that allows the good that comes from your circle to send the peace of that goodness to others. The splash that comes from anger or jealousy will send those feelings to other circles. You are responsible for both.” That was the first time I realized that each person creates the inner peace or discord that flows out into the world. We cannot create world peace if we are riddled with inner conflict, hatred, doubt, or anger. We radiate the feelings and thoughts that we hold inside, whether we speak them or not. Whatever is splashing around inside of us is spilling out into the world, creating beauty or discord with all other circles of life.

这是苏语系印第安人部落中流传的一个古老的故事…… 在我七岁那年，我的祖父来到田边的一个池塘。他让我丢一颗石子到水中，并嘱咐我仔细观察石子所激起的水波纹。然后他叫我把自己想象成那颗石子。 他说：“在生命的水面上，你也许能激起许多波纹，而你所激起的波纹也会打破别人的平静，” “要谨记，对你所激起的波纹中所包含的东西负责，因为这些东西会接触、影响到别人的波纹。” “你应当努力使自己波纹中的平和宁静传播给他人。当然，如果你的波纹中携带有愤怒、嫉妒，别人也会受到你的影响，因此，你要对它们负责。” 这是我第一次了解到，每个人心中的平和抑或不和，都会传播给整个世界。如果我们自己内心都被冲突、仇恨、疑虑或者愤怒所纠缠，自然就不能给世界带来平和宁静。 无论我们是否说出心中的感觉和思绪，我们都在向外界传播它们。无论我们内心激起的是何种波纹，它们都会被传向他人，与别人的生命波纹共同激起美丽，抑或是不和谐。

Success：点燃自己 点燃成功(双语)

Have you heard of a guy called Fred Shero? No? Until recently, me neither. I’m not a big sports fan and Fred was a hugely successful Canadian NHL player and coach with a string of many hundreds of wins and numerous awards and accolades to his name. Pretty good going, but it’s not his sports record that I admire. What I love Fred for is something that he once said: “Success is not the result of spontaneous combustion. You must first set yourself on fire.” Reading that sent lightning bolts through my spine, as there have been many times in my life when I’ve been sitting back, subconsciously waiting for the world to bring me the success I thought I wanted. To be completely honest with you, even now I sometimes find myself expecting someone else to ’set fire’ to me, waiting for spontaneous combustion rather setting myself on fire and finding my own success. I have to catch myself when I slip into that way of thinking before it sets in, because Fred’s absolutely right. People all too often wait for success to happen to them. “If only it would fall into place…”, “Surely someone will discover who I am and what I can do soon…” or “Just a little while longer and it’ll all come good…” are examples of the things we say while we’re waiting for success to come along. Of course, the big thing I’ve come to learn is that it doesn’t work that way. Finding success – real success – isn’t a passive thing. It’s not something that happens to you like watching a movie or getting your hair cut. Finding success is something that happens in you. Here are 4 things for you to think about: 1. What does success look like to you? What comprises success? How much of it is material? How much of it is emotional? How much of it is spiritual? Get specific about what success does and doesn’t mean to you. 2. Imagine yourself towards the end of your life Picture yourself towards the end of your life as happy and content as you can be. What is it about that future you that tells you as clear as day that they’re happy and content? Picture yourself walking up to them and asking them what it is that allowed them to reach that point. What single piece of advice can they give you? 3. How focused are you on working on your success? What are you willing to do to get the kind of success you want? What are you waiting for the world to deliver to you so that you can have that success? 4. Are you driving your success? How would it be if you were driving that success rather than waiting for it? What changes do you notice in how you do things and how you feel about things? I’m not suggesting for one minute that you can’t ask others, the world, the universe or whatever higher power you happen to believe in for help. I’m not even suggesting that you become wholly focused on working towards your success. That’s missing the point. The point is that we humans tend to be focused on working towards happiness and success and assume that until it comes along we have to spend time being unhappy, suffering or struggling. You don’t have to struggle… The truth is that things happen much easier and more readily if we don’t struggle, suffer or assume unhappiness – the assumption that you need to struggle or fight for your success is a false one. Real success comes much easier and becomes more consistent when you operate straight from that place of success instead of assuming it’s out there in the world somewhere. Go after what’s important to you and get going on all those shiny things you’d love to have, do and be in life, but recognise how much more pleasureable it’s going to be when you’re feeling happy and successful rather than unhappy and unsuccessful. Fred got it right. Don’t wait for spontaneous combustion or for someone to set light to you. Dive into your own happiness and success, engage with those things and operate from a place where they’re real and present. Don’t wait, set yourself on fire. 原文链接：http://www.yeeyan.com/articles/view/49269/18789/dz

你听说过一个名叫弗雷德·谢罗的人吗？ 没有？我也才听说。我不是体育迷，而弗雷德是个非常成功的加拿大全国曲棍球联合会的运动员，指导了上百次的胜利，自己也获得许多奖励和赞誉。成绩相当棒，不过，我钦佩的不是他的体育记录。 我喜欢弗雷德是因为他曾经说过： “成功不是自燃的结果。你必须首先点燃自己。” 这句话震撼了我，因为在生活中，我曾多次袖手旁观，下意识地等待这个世界带我走向自己想得到的成功。跟你说实话，我发现，甚至现在，自己有时还在期待着别人给自己点把火，宁愿等待自燃，而不愿点燃自己，去努力争取自己的成功。 每当那样想的时候，我都努力控制自己，不再想下去，因为弗雷德说的绝对正确。 人们时常等待成功在自己身上发生。“只要有了头绪……”，“不久，一定会有人发现我的存在，了解我的能力……”或者“用不了多久，一切都会好了……”，这是我们在等待成功的到来时常说的一些话。 当然，我得到的最重要的启示是，那样是得不到成功的。想要成功——真正获得成功——不是被动的事情。成功不像看场电影，或理个发那么简单。 下面有四个你需要考虑的问题： １．你认为成功是什么样子？ 成功包括什么？有多少是物质的？有多少是情感的？有多少是精神的？具体了解成功对自己意味着什么，以及不意味着什么。 ２．想像自己走向生活的终点 尽可能幸福而满足地想像出自己的生活终点。未来的你清清楚楚告诉你的幸福和满足的是什么？想像你走向未来的自己，向他询问是什么让他达到那个目的。他能给你的唯一建议是什么？ ３．在努力争取成功的过程中你有多么专注？ 你愿意为你想获得的成功付出什么？为了能获得成功，你在等待世界送给你什么？ ４．你在推动自己的成功吗？ 如果你正在推动自己的成功，而不是等待成功，会怎么样呢？你注意到自己如何做事情和如何揣摩事情有什么不同吗？ 我不是暗示你不能向自己信任的他人、世界、宇宙、或能力高于自己的一切请求帮助。我甚至不是暗示要你完全投入到争取获得成功的工作中去。那就误解了我的意思。 我是说，人类容易集中精力投入到争取幸福和成功的工作中，以为在目的达到之前，我们必须度过不幸的、痛苦的，或是苦斗的时光。 你不必非得苦斗…… 事实上，如果我们不去苦斗、不受折磨、或不承受不幸，那么，成功会来得更容易，更迅速——为了获得成功需要你奋斗或拚搏的假设是错误的。只要你直接从成功的地方入手，而不去设想成功在世界的某个地方，真正的成功就会来得更容易，也会更长久。 追求对你来说重要的东西，着手做自己喜爱的那些闪光的事情，一生一世都这么做。不过，要承认你正感受着幸福和成功，而不是不幸和失败，那将成为多么大的快乐。 弗雷德说的很对。不要等待自燃，或别人为你提供火种。开始享受自己的幸福和成功，参与那些快乐的事情，就从它们实际存在的地方入手。 别等待，点燃自己吧。

双语：女人真正想要的是什么？

Young King Arthur was ambushed and imprisoned by the monarch of a neighboring kingdom. The monarch could have killed him but was moved by Arthur’s youthful happiness. So he offered him freedom, as long as he could answer a very difficult question. Arthur, would have a year to figure out the answer. If, after a year, he still had no answer, he would be killed. The question was: What do women really want? Such a question would have perplexed even the most knowledgeable man, and, to young Arthur, it seemed an impossible query. Since it was better than death, however, he accepted the monarch’s proposition to have an answer by year’s end. He returned to his kingdom and began to poll everybody; the princess, the prostitutes, priests, the wise men, and the court jester. In all, he spoke with everyone but no one could give him a satisfactory answer. What most people did tell him was to consult the old witch, as only she would know the answer. The price would be high as the witch was famous for the exorbitant prices she charged. The last day of the year arrived and Arthur had no alternative but to talk to the witch. She agreed to answer his question, but he’d have to accept her price; the old witch wanted to marry Gawain, the most noble of the Knights of the Round table and Arthur’s closest friend! Young Arthur was horrified, she was hunchbacked and awfully hideous, had only one tooth, smelled like a sewer and often made obscene noises. He had never run across such a repugnant creature. He refused to force his friend to marry her and to have to endure such a burden. Gawain upon learning of the proposal, spoke with Arthur. He told him that nothing was too big a sacrifice compared to Arthur’s life and the preservation of the Round table. Hence, their wedding was proclaimed, and the witch answered Arthur’s question. What a woman really wants is to be able to be in charge of her own life. Everyone instantly knew that the witch had uttered a great truth and that Arthur’s life would be spared. And so it went. The neighboring monarch spared Arthur’s life and granted him total freedom. What a wedding Gawain and the witch had! Arthur was torn between relief and anguish. Gawain was proper as always, gentle and courteous. The old witch put her worst manners on display. She ate with her hands, belched and farted, and made everyone uncomfortable. The wedding night approached: Gawain, steeling himself for a horrific night, entered the bedroom. What a sight awaited! The most beautiful woman he’d ever seen lay before him! Gawain was astounded and asked what had happened. The beauty replied that since he had been so kind to her when she’d been a witch, half the time she would be her horrible, deformed self. And the other half, she would be her beautiful maiden self. Which would,he want her to be during the day and which during the night? What a cruel question! Gawain began to think of his predicament. During the day a beautiful woman to show off to his friends, but at night, in the privacy of his home, an old spooky witch? Or would he prefer having by day a hideous witch, but by night a beautiful woman to enjoy many intimate moments. What would you do? What Gawain chose follows below, but don’t read until you’ve made your own choice. Noble Gawain replied that he would let her choose for herself. Upon hearing this, she announced that she would be beautiful all the time, because he had respected her and had let her be in charge of her own life. What is the moral of the story? The moral is that it doesn’t matter if a woman is pretty or ugly, smart or dumb. Underneath it all, she’s still a . . . . . witch!!! 原文链接：http://www.yeeyan.com/articles/view/49269/17618/dz

年轻的亚瑟王遭到邻国国王伏击，受到监禁。邻国国王原本要杀他，但被他青春的快乐所感动。他提出，只要亚瑟能回答一个难题，就还他自由。亚瑟将有一年的时间找出答案。如果一年后他还没有答案，就将被处死。 那个问题是：女人真正想要的是什么？这个问题有可能难倒最有智慧的男人，在年轻的亚瑟看来，这似乎是个不可能有答案的难题。不管怎么样，这总比死要好，于是，他接受了国王年底交出答案的提议。 他回到自己的王国，开始向所有人征求答案，从公主，娼妓，牧师，哲人到宫廷弄臣。总之，他找所有人谈话，但没人能给他满意的答案。人们说的最多的是让他去请教老巫婆，因为只有她知道答案。但是，代价会很高，老巫婆正是因为要价过高而出名。 一 转眼年末最后一天到了，亚瑟还是没有找到答案，只好去找巫婆谈。她同意回答这个问题，但是，他必须接受她的要价：老巫婆想嫁给加文，圆桌骑士团最高尚的骑 士，亚瑟最亲密的朋友！年轻的亚瑟王很难过，她是个丑得可怕的驼子，只有一颗牙齿，气味像阴沟的味道一样，还经常发出令人厌恶的声音。他从没见过这么让人 恶心的生物。他不愿强迫朋友娶她，不愿让朋友承受如此的负担。 加文知道了这个提议后，找到亚瑟，对他说，与亚瑟的生命和保全圆桌骑士团相比，多大的牺牲都不为过。因此，公布了他们的结婚典礼，老巫婆也回答了亚瑟的问题。 女人真正想要的是能够主宰自己的命运。 所有人瞬间明白了，巫婆说出了一个伟大的真理，亚瑟有救了。果然不出所料，邻国国王赦免了亚瑟，并同意给他完全的自由。 加 文和巫婆举办了什么样的婚礼啊！亚瑟的心撕裂了，既为获得自由感到轻松，也为朋友感到极度的痛苦。加文一如既往，举止得体，温文尔雅。老巫婆却露出了她最 丑陋的仪态。她用手抓东西吃，又放屁，又打嗝，让所有人都感到不舒服。洞房之夜到了：加文咬牙准备度过一个可怕的夜晚，他进了卧室。等待他的是什么景象 啊！他见过的最漂亮的女子躺在他的面前！加文惊呆了，问发生了什么事。 漂亮女子回答道，由于她是女巫时他对她很好，所以将有一半时间，她显现出可怕丑陋的形象，另一半时间，她会呈现出美丽淑女的形象。他希望她白天什么样，晚上什么样？多么残忍的问题！加文开始考虑自己的尴尬处境。 白天，在朋友面前炫耀一位美丽的女人，而晚上，在自己私秘的家里，出现一个幽灵般的巫婆？或者，他宁愿白天拥有一个可怕的巫婆，而晚上，由一位美丽的女子相伴，时刻享受亲密温馨。 你会怎么做？ 加文的选择就在下面，不过，先不要看，直到你 做出 自己的 选择 高尚的加文回答道，他希望让她自己做出选择。 听到回答，她宣布说她愿意一直美丽，因为他尊重了她的意愿，让她主宰了自己的命运。 这个故事寓意何在呢？ 其寓意在于，无论一个女人美丽还是丑陋，机灵还是愚蠢。在一切伪装之下，她始终是个……迷人的女巫！！！

Friendship:如何于他人友好相处并赢得友谊？

1. Keep skid chains on your tongue; always say less than you think. Cultivate a low, persuasive voice. How you say it counts more than what you say. 2. Make promises sparingly, and keep them faithfully, no matter what it costs. 3. Never let an opportunity pass to say a kind and encouraging word to or about somebody. Praise good work, regardless of who did it. If criticism is needed, criticize helpfully, never spitefully. 4. Be interested in others, their pursuits, their work, their homes and families. Make merry with those who rejoice; with those who weep, mourn. Let everyone you meet, however humble, feel that you regard him as a person of importance. 5. Be cheerful. Don’t burden or depress those around you by dwelling on your minor aches and pains and small disappointments. Remember, everyone is carrying some kind of a load. 6. Keep an open mind. Discuss but don’t argue. It is a mark of a superior mind to be able to disagree without being disagreeable. 7. Let your virtues speak for themselves. Refuse to talk of another’s vices. Discourage gossip. It is a waste of valuable time and can be extremely destructive. 8. Be careful of another’s feelings. Wit and humor at the other person’s expense are rarely worth it and may hurt when least expected. 9. Pay no attention to ill-natured remarks about you. Remember, the person who carried the message may not be the most accurate reporter in the world. Simply live so that nobody will believe them. Disordered nerves and bad digestion are a common cause of backbiting. 10. Don’t be too anxious about the credit due you. Do your best, and be patient. Forget about yourself, and let others “remember.” Success is much sweeter that way.

1. 给自己的嘴巴安上一把锁，不要试图讲出全部的想法。培养低调和富有感染力的言谈。说话的方式比内容更为重要。 2. 少作承诺，并保证它们的信誉。一旦作出承诺，无论付出多大代价都要履行。 3. 永远不要错过赞赏和鼓励别人的机会。不论是谁做的漂亮的工作，都给予称赞。如果需要提出意见，请以一种帮助的态度，而不是鄙夷的态度。 4. 关心别人的需要、工作、家庭和家人。与快乐的人一起快乐；与悲伤的人一起悲伤。让每一个与你交往的人，不论多么卑微，都能感觉到你对他的重视。 5. 做一个快乐的人。不要将自己不足一提的伤痛和失望传染给了周围的人。请记住，每个人都承担着某些压力。 6. 保持开放的心态。讨论但不要争论，不同意但不愤岔，是伟大心灵的标志。 7. 让你的美德自己来说话。拒绝谈论别人的短处，不要传播谣言。这些将浪费你宝贵的时间，并会极大地破坏你的人际关系。 8. 谨慎地对待别人的情感。揶揄和幽默并不值得以伤害别人为代价，尤其当你认为可能性很小的时候。 9. 无需担心关于你的流言。请记住，散播流言的人并非世界上最准确的报道员。以不变应万变。紧张不安加上坏心眼一般是背后议人是非的原因。 10.别太着急属于自己的信誉。将你自己做到最好，并要有耐心。忘记你自己，让别人来“记住”你。这样的成功更令人愉悦。

中国俗语的美式说法

1.人山人海：

a (the) sea of faces

a large crowd of people

2.家家有本难念的经：

Many families have skeletons in the closet.

Every family has its own problem.

3.天下无不散的宴席：

All good things come to an end.(意思是：所有好的事情，总有结束的一天。)

Eventually, all bosom friends will drift apart. (bosom friend 是指知心的好友)

4.平时不烧香，临时抱佛脚：

Worship God every day; not just in times of adversity. (要每天敬拜神，不是只在困难时。)

对学生也可以说：

If you study hard every day, exams will not seem overwhelming.(如果你每天用功，考试就不会形成压力。)

5.挂羊头，卖狗肉：

He applied bait-and-switch factics in business.(他经商的策略是先引诱顾客来，再改变货物的品质。)

6.一言既出，驷马难追：

A word once let go cannot be recalled.

或者说：

You can not take back what you have said.(你说出的话，就不能再收回来。)

7.祸从口出，言多必失：

Careless talk leads to trouble.(不小心说话，会带来麻烦); 或

The less said the better. (说的愈少愈好)

Breakaway – 远走他乡/美梦成真

Grew up in a small town 在一个小镇成长
And when the rain would fall down 每当大雨迷茫
I’d just stared out my window 我就向窗外凝望
Dreaming of what could be 描绘着我的梦想
And if I’d end up happy 如果能成就梦想
I would pray 我愿意祈祷

Trying hard to reach out 尝试着接触外面的世界
But when I tried to speak out 但当我想要倾诉
Felt like no one could hear me 却感到茫茫无助
Wanted to belong here 想要接受这个地方
But something felt so wrong here 但这儿不是我的天堂
So I pray 所以我祈祷
I could breakaway 我要远走他乡

I’ll spread my wings and I’ll learn how to fly 我将展开翅膀,我将学习飞翔
I’ll do what it takes til’ I touch the sky 我将努力尝试，直达云霄
And I’ll make a wish 我将许下心愿
Take a chance 尝试一下
Make a change 奋斗一回
And breakaway 远走他乡

Out of the darkness and into the sun 脱离黑暗,冲向光明
But I won’t forget all the ones that I love 但我不会忘记我所深爱的人
I’ll take a risk 我将冒一次险
Take a chance 尝试一下
Make a change 奋斗一回
And breakaway 远走他乡

Wanna feel the warm breeze 想要吹着暖风
Sleep under a palm tree 睡在棕榈树下
Feel the rush of the ocean 感受那海浪
Get onboard a fast train 搭上一辆快车
Travel on a jet plane, far away 登上一架飞机,展翅高飞
And breakaway 远走他乡

Buildings with a hundred floors 踏进有百级台阶的大楼
Swinging around wild indoors 在房间内疯狂
Maybe I don’t know where they’ll take me but 可能我并不知道我将走向何方，但是
Gotta keep moving on, moving on 我必须继续前进,努力奋斗
Fly away, breakaway 展翅高飞,远走他乡

I’ll spread my wings 我将展开翅膀
And I’ll learn how to fly 我将学习飞翔
Though it’s not easy to tell you goodbye 虽然难以向你道别
I gotta take a risk 但我必须冒一次险
Take chance 尝试一下
Make a change 奋斗一回
And breakaway 远走他乡

Out of the darkness and into the sun 脱离黑暗,冲向光明
But I won’t forget the place I come from 但我不会忘记我来自何方
I gotta take a risk 但我必须冒一次险
Take a chance 尝试一下
Make a change 奋斗一回
And breakaway, breakaway, breakaway 远走他乡……

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Movies list

Shall We Dance

My Best Friend’s Wedding

Meet Joe Black

A beautiful Mind

In the Heat of the Night

The wizard of Oz

Casablanca

Jerry McGuire

The Pursuit of Happiness

Music and Lyrics

A Few Good Men

Officer and A Gentleman

Waking Ned Devine

Titanic

The Firm

Everybody Loves Raymond

Friends

50 First Dates

Pretty Woman

The Legends of Fall

E.T. the Extra-Terrestrial

Terminator

让您的孩子志在当下 赢在未来!

１、如果没有空气，没有人能够生存；如果没有目标，没有人能够成功！帮助孩子发掘出心中的梦想，学会设定目标，并把目标分解到每年、每月、每日的生活中。，提升孩子行为的目的性和执行力，激发孩子追求理想的原动力。

２、态度决定一切。帮助孩子明白：今天你对学习、对生活所持的态度，就决定了未来你将成为什么样的人，将过一种什么样的生活，所以，要树立积极的人生态度。

３、懂得和掌握人际关系中的核心技巧——同理心原则，让孩子了解与人相处中尊重和合作的重要性。因为人是社会的人，是处在各种关系中的人，如果你不能让周围的人接纳你，那么你拥有再高的智力和学识都会变得毫无意义。

４、让孩子学会感恩，在有情有义中完善人生。